I haven’t written one of these Having a Moment posts in a bit, but I’ve been thinking about writing this one forever. Today, I guess I just got into a mood and this spilled right out. So here we go!
What a time, ladies, what a time. Being single again has brought some laughs, some screams, and some texts to my girlfriends with “why. me.” written 10x. I’ve also started listening to podcasts for the first time in my life. Yes, I know. The process of me going online, looking for, and listening to podcasts has been long overdue. According to my friends, I’m way behind on the times.
I hadn’t realized just how popular podcasts are until I listened to my first one. But I can see why. It’s almost as if the person on the other end of the microphone is talking directly to you, and not the hundreds of other viewers who tune in to listen to the latest google podcast, for example. It’s amazing to me, and it’s no longer a surprise to me as to why people rave about them all the time. And now, I can’t wait to listen to more because newsflash: I obviously love them! And the dating ones are the absolute best, in my opinion anyway (but really, please send me all your podcast recommendations, dating or not).
I’ve gone on a few dates with a “guy” (you’ll see why this is my naming convention of choice as we get to the m-e-a-t of the post): dinner, beer garden, and Terror Behind the Walls (the terror was true and real), and for tonight’s date, it was my turn to suggest. And suggest I did:
Keeping true to my list-loving personality, I just sent a guy 10 options for date #4 this Weds. Any interest in me making this a blog post?
– Her Philly (@HerPhilly) October 10, 2016
After seeing how many of you liked this idea, I thought I’d add a little bit of an extra spin to it, and get actual, real Philadelphia men to give me feedback on these 10 dates I very really suggested. I asked them to give me some quick thoughts on what they would think if a girl suggested these for date 4. Some of these you’ve seen on the blog before, some are new ideas. I’ve decided not to identify the guys (and just call them “guys”), but for some extra context, they range in age from 27-34 and all live in the city, so they’re pretty up on their Philadelphia knowledge. Oh, and one of them is my actual date for tonight, because I’m crazy. 😉
This past November, I was a dependent woman. And not on any guy, but on none other than Tinder. Through many dates and many men, I’ve come to the conclusion that dating apps can be extremely limiting (especially when all of your friends are using them, too). In my experience (and you know I loved online dating at one point), after a while, apps can hold you back. My friends and I would go out in the city and not entertain any conversations with men, because, for all we knew, they were creeps. And why talk to creeps, when we could (hopefully) vet the endless supply of men waiting right on our cell phones (before we even had to deal with looking them in the eye)? I know a few of my friends that have found love on BBW Dating Sites but not all of us have been so lucky. Due to the consistent advancements in technology, whether it be a new app or a new algorithm to test people’s compatibility, there are always new options popping up out there though, which tend to open up the market, sometimes for the better and sometimes maybe not if you see the same people on there – sites like JustKiss can be used as an example. Who knew it would be so hard to find your soul mate?!